“Distance makes the heart grow fonder.” That’s what every cheesy romcom tells us at least. That the feelings between two passionate lovers is equally If not stronger when kept apart.
Well the truth is, distance really sucks. But that doesn’t mean it has to.
BY: Jason Suerte Felipe
Now let’s first get down to the numbers. According to a 2013 study from the Journal of Communication, research has shown that “long distance couples tend to have the same or more satisfaction in their relationships than couples who are geographically close, and higher level of dedication to their relationships and less feelings of being trapped.” The reason for it: communication. Meaning there is even more talking, more learning of each other and more falling in love.
Of course, that’s all in moderation. Anyone would rip their hair out if every second of every minute of every hour was spent talking on the phone with the same person. You have to be able to balance your own life and the life of your relationship. Being considerate of your time and your partner’s time.
Like any relationship, long distance relationships has problems (No duh), but if you and your partner are committed and are willing to put in the communication, honesty and time, it makes the worries a whole lot smaller and the outcome 1000x’s more authentic and real.
5 Best Tips To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work
1. Technology Is Your Best Friend
There are so many ways to keep connected in this day in age. In a long distance relationship, people rely more on technology to stay connected. Doing so, you can find yourself sharing a lot more details of your day as compared to sitting on the couch in the same room as your partner.
Don’t let your conversations be ruined by insecurity and anxiety. Be truthful as you would be together in the same room. It’s all in the details. Communicate with one another well enough so your day becomes more alive for your partner.
Time is precious. Make schedules and plans for video calls and visits. This is especially important for those with time differences. Set times for phone calls and video calls, and squeeze in those texts,
3. Just Because You’re Apart, Doesn’t Mean You Can’t Have Fun Together
Not being in the same physically space does not mean the fun stops!
For example, you can plan a movie together via Skype, order take out, have a wine night, binge the same shows or even play video games together. And if you’re feeling frisky, why not have fun with it! Find things that you both can enjoy apart, and can enjoy when you’re together once more.
4. Be Confident In Your Long Distance Relationship
There shouldn’t be any doubt when it comes between you and your partner. You will have hiccups of course, but at the end of the day you should know that things will work out in the end. Because you both have planned it, and both are working hard to see that happen. It is up to both of you to be honest and open with each other to form a relationship that’s so confident that the doubts just wash away.
Of course we don’t live in a perfect world. So if there is any sense of doubt, you need to communicate and establish what needs improvement.
5. Set Rules and Boundaries
This brings us to one of the most important steps for a long distance relationship: Setting rules and boundaries. Rules are important in any relationship. They establish respect and trust between partners.
Golden Rule: DO NOT do anything you wouldn’t want your partner doing behind your back. And if you have a hard time deciding what’s okay and not okay- communicate! Talk to your partner before making that decision. Communicate. Communicate. Communicate! If you think something doesn’t feel right, don’t be afraid to bring it up. Better to prevent a situation from happening before it happens by talking with your partner. Everything boils down to communication, honesty and respect.
The way I see it, long distance is just a fancy word for “I’ll be back.” You know the distance is not for forever and the love can tackle any distance. And this goes without saying but, have patience. Although it can be hard at times, you have the tools to make it work!
Any tips for long distance relationships? Share with us in the comments!