You know what they say- December is the month of heartache. But who says it has to be that way?
By Jason P. Suerte Felipe
The holiday season can be a kick to the back of the knee; dropping us to the floor unexpectedly. It’s hard not to get lost in the rush and chaos of the holidays. According to PsychologyToday, with the lack of time, deadlines, breakups, and even losses- “holidays can bring feelings of sadness and depression, as well as anxiety for a variety of reasons.”
I don’t know about you, but it definitely has been a tough year. Having to make ends meet with a unfulfilling job, losing a best friend, finding myself time and time again- over and over- it can get overwhelming. And as the years go by, the holidays just don’t seem like the holidays anymore. We get lost in our own lives that we forget to live our lives.
But let’s not lose that spark. Never let that flame die no matter how strong the winter winds blow you.
A year can teach you a lot. It can throw you down and by the end of it, it can be hard to get back up. But a year can also teach you new lessons and show you new beginnings.
Here’s 3 Things You Can Do To Overcome Those Holiday Blues
- Accept Your Feelings. Take a deep breath. And take it all in. Allow yourself to feel whatever you need to feel- judgment free. Most of us can build up walls when we are so thrown down and throughout time, those walls get too heavy to break down- forcing ourselves to keep everything in. Start by understanding your emotions. Why are you feeling this way? Am I able to move past this? And if so, am I able to let someone in to talk to. A close friend or someone you can trust o vent out and listen. Sometimes all we need is a shoulder to lean on.
- Why and how? Figure out the “why” and find the “how.” Why are you feeling blue and what can you do to help. For example, the holidays can feel very lonely. But you are never alone. Find close friends and family and find time for them. Call the one you love or FaceTime them even if it’s just to say hello. Find the means to help you through difficult times.
- Find Meaning. If you ever feel suck like I do, try something new. Now this doesn’t mean going skydiving or anything too crazy (unless that’s what you need), but try and find meaning in who you are and what you do. It’s so easy to get lost in routine that we forget what we want. Find that job you want. Get that tattoo. Love yourself. Like most things, that’s easier said than done. But you are the author of your own book. So why not write your own story for once.
Remember, the blues are just temporary. And yes it will come and go and some days will be tougher than most. But you have the power and only you get to decide who and what you want to be.
How do you overcome the holiday blues? Share your ideas in the comments. Feeling lonely? Start a comment thread and let’s get to know one another. Cheers & Happy Holidays!