Here’s the thing about New Years and everything associated with it- it’s a scam.
By: Jason Suerte Felipe
New year, new me!. . . Right?
When it comes to the new year, many of us think we can leave all the trauma we faced in the previous year behind like it never happened, and start the year with a clean slate. But let me tell you now, we can’t just erase and forget everything we have gone through. For that is what made us who we are now.
The popular phrase “New Year, New Me” should not be used as an excuse to try and better ourselves, when we should already be doing that in the first place. Bettering ourselves should not have a start date or end date, for we should be working on ourselves every day. Waiting for the new year to change ourselves is only delaying our self-progress.
Believe me, 2018 has been quite the year. I’ve dealt with the trauma and heartbreak. I’ve dealt with suicidal thoughts and questioning my worth. I’ve had constant battles with myself, beating myself down. And the thing is. . . I am still dealing with that. Most of us wish there was a refresh button (myself included), but unfortunately that is not how life works. We have to acknowledge our struggles and understand the road is and will be bumpy.
This past October, I posted a picture on my birthday to Instagram. And in the caption, I wrote:
“23 is being comfortable in my own skin and loving myself for who I am and what I stand for. 23 is loving my growing body without shame while still working to be healthy. 23 is bettering my mental health and believing I AM deserving of better. 23 is recognizing when I need help, and reaching out to those who will help me. 23 is letting go of past trauma and working towards a brighter and positive future. 23 is being proud of who I am as an individual and not letting anyone or anything tear me down. I may have these deep scars and bruises, but I am what I am. I am who I am. And I am happy. Cheers to 23!”
You may notice these aren’t short term goals, but a personal mantra of my long term goals. And these aren’t just limited to my 23rd year. It applies to the 24th, 25th, the year after that, and the year after that, and so on and so on.
Bettering ourselves is a constant battle. There will be days where we hold our heads high. And days where life. Just. Sucks. But that shouldn’t stop us from changing who we want to become.
So I encourage you to fight. And tackle a personal mantra of your own. As I said, it is a constant battle and it will be rocky, but you have the tools to better your life.
So why wait, when you can start now.
What is your personal mantra? Share with us in the comments!
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